Bullying · Health · Mental Health · Relationships · Self Acceptance · Uncategorized · Wellness

Jasmine Pearce (Miss Teen Global Darling) on Her Journey with Anxiety and Bullying- Skype interview

I first met Jasmine Pearce through the Miss Regal World pageant system. Jasmine lives in England and was in the Miss Teen division and made it all the way to the finals of Miss Teen Regal World! Since then she has competed in a different pageant… and won Miss Teen Global Darling!!! 👑

Jasmine wanted to do this interview to raise awareness about mental health. In this interview we discuss her journey with anxiety and panic attacks and the bullying that exacerbated them.

… And we spent a lot of time at the end laughing and giggling 😁 😍 😊.

It seems that the video won’t upload on my blog but you can view it on YouTube. Here’s the link to the interview: Mental Health, Anxiety, and Bullying.

COVID-19 · Health · Mental Health · Quarantine · Relationships · Self Acceptance · Self Improvement · Uncategorized

Quarantine Convo’s

Some of you reading this might not believe this right now and may just chalk my words up to the sad element of the country music I’m listening to as I write this (yes, I’m listening to classic country at 2:30am). The truth is that this is a topic I’ve been thinking about for a few months… besides, I’m constantly listening to country music so I’m somewhat immune to the sadness in country songs 😊

So, about these “Quarantine Convo’s”… I hate to say this but more often than not these conversations are distractions and not real relationships. I’ve seen people fall in love with their neighbours or with online matches. But few people stop and think “Would I feel this way about this person if life was ‘normal’?” The answer in these cases is more than likely a hard pass.

With quarantine and lockdowns due to COVID-19 people are being forced out of their normal lifestyles. For some people that means that they are ending long-term relationships. For other people that means starting relationships they would normally never consider.

I think it’s important to remember that these “relationships” are likely not going to last once people’s lives are back to normal. With Coronavirus putting us in these situations that are abnormal to humans, people are reaching for whatever human interactions they can find. IMO, that means that people are reaching out to people who they would normally not be interested in.

I’m not judging or looking down on anyone- we all have the right to live our lives as we please. But I think it’s important to realize that these “quarantine conversations” are just a distraction. Under normal circumstances this would be considered a distraction from the boredom between relationships. People need a distraction from feeling imprisoned in their homes so they are reaching out to neighbours or online relationships. It’s important to stop and think about whether one would have been interested in this “relationship” under normal circumstances.

It seems that more often than not one (or both) party is in this “relationship” simply to fulfill the normal human desire for contact with other humans. Normally this would be considered having a distraction from mundane day-to-day life but considering how online dating and relationships have proliferated during quarantine/lockdown/social distancing it seems that people are looking for extreme distractions. That is, rather than just seeing these “relationships” as stopgaps they are seeing them as something more than that and ascribing meaning to them.

I guess what I’m saying is to just guard your heart and be smart. Don’t fall in love with someone you normally wouldn’t be interested in just because that person is convenient and pays attention to you. When things get back to normal will this person still invest their time and energy in you? Before starting a relationship ask yourself if you would be interested in this person if you weren’t locked in close proximity.

And for goodness sake, do not settle for less than your worth just because you’re lonely or bored. There will be a COVID-19 vaccine soon enough and things will be back to normal. If you’re not really in to the person you suddenly find yourself attracted to, rather than investing your time and energy in to that person spend that time investing in yourself. Read books that expand your knowledge in to areas that you’re not familiar with. Learn about historical events. Explore other perspectives in to issues that you have already made up your mind on. Learn a new skill. Take up knitting or crocheting. (And don’t mock either of those- knitting is one of my favourite hobbies!) With winter rapidly approaching knitting blankets or mittens for homeless people would be a better investment of your time and energy than spending those resources in a man or woman who wouldn’t typically be your person of choice.

Yes- you are just human and have a need for human companionship and interactions. Use this time to connect with friends and family via video calls. Use it to invest in your community by helping the less fortunate, especially as winter approaches. Do things that are spiritually, mentally, and emotionally fulfilling. If you’re meant to be with a person, that person will still be around even after quarantine/lockdown is over.

There’s no rush to get in to a relationship and a pandemic is no reason to mess up your personal life. Don’t settle. Focus on things that improve YOU for your own sake- you’re the person you’ll be spending the rest of your life with! Check out musicians you’d normally never consider. Between books, podcasts, and calls with your friends and family there really is no time left over for either being someone else’s distraction or for using someone as your distraction. This is the time to be focussing on growing yourself and helping your community.

The world is on fire- don’t do anything that will add to the negativity in your personal life.

I mean this with your best interest at heart. Janice 🙂

beauty · Culture · Health · Heritage · Modelling · Self Acceptance

Loving a nose that isn’t “beautiful”… An actress/model’s perspective.

When I was younger there were so many times I desperately wanted a rhinoplasty (nose job). I was mocked because of the bump in the bridge of my nose and the bulbous tip. A nose job was definitely on my To Do List. Now that I’m older I’m so damn proud of this nose! This nose is the product of generations of my ancestors who I never had the privilege of meeting. This is the nose of people who were taken from their homeland and used as indentured labourers in a new country. They were brought from India to the Caribbean and had to earn their freedom. If they passed away before paying off the cost of their passage, their children had to work of the cost of the trans-Atlantic trip. My ancestors were the poorest of the poor in India and wanted to make a better life for themselves in the Caribbean. They were oppressed in the new country too. YET THEY PREVAILED. And I have the privilege of wearing the nose that they wore!

Ultimately every natural aspect of one’s appearance is the product of one’s ancestors. Whether it’s skin color, hair color, hair texture, freckles, height, or WHATEVER else, there is a story behind it. If you’re of Irish lineage and you have freckles that you don’t like, think of your ancestors who survived the Potato Famine and passed their freckles on through their descendants; you have the privilege of wearing their freckles! Whatever the physical trait is that you don’t like, there is an ancestor who had that trait and that person has a story that you might want to brag about. Hate your hair? What about that man or woman in your family tree who started a small business and provided for his/her family while wearing that same hair! Hate your height (or lack of height)? What about that person a few generations ago who served in World War II and despite his height (or lack of height) he contributed to The Allies winning! Whatever your physical trait is that you’re struggling to accept, there is an individual or a people group that had that trait and they were pretty darn awesome. Think of their awesomeness and embrace their physical uniqueness. It’s cool that YOU have the physical evidence of being linked to that person in the family tree or in world history!

This nose may not be the standard of beauty in the Western World or even in India but it is the nose of my ancestors and I am proud to wear it every day.

Thanks to Sanja (StudiO 2:22) for capturing my profile in this pic.

Photo by Sanja Jovic Filipovic (Studi0 2:22)